Thursday, September 24, 2015

Ten Lessons from the Junior League

"We can do more than we think we are capable of..."

"You are the leader..."

"Public speaking won’t kill you..."


We enjoyed these lessons, and more, from Lela Davidson. Lela is a Junior League member from Bentonville, Arkansas. Below is an excerpt from her blog post entitled, "Ten Lessons from the Junior League." Read her entire post here.



All I need to know I learned in the Junior League. Okay, so maybe I picked up a few things elsewhere, but the Junior League has been the source for so many good things in my life. I’m talking about Junior League here because that’s my group, but there are other organizations of women. While they all have challenges, there are particular things that I could not have learned anywhere else. Whatever you think about the Junior League in particular, and women’s organizations in general, I offer here my experience.

10 things I’ve learned so far:

1. Best friends help you hide the body.
Nothing builds team faster than getting a job done. Take your ropes courses and your weird corporate ice-breakers. Give me a room full of women–the shy ones, the bossy ones, the ones that make you spit Chardonnay out your nose–and let’s get to work on something for someone else. We might complain a little, but we’ll get the job done and we’ll love each other more in the end. (Or not, and that’s okay too.)

2. When in doubt, serve something salty, something sweet, and a soda.
Oh, to be a real Southerner and know these things. Alas, I am not. While I often feel like a stranger in the strange land of hospitality, I have also learned to adopt the ways of these creatures who seem to have been imbued at birth with the ability to make guests feel at home. I keep trying. What I’ve learned so far is that it doesn’t have to be fancy. A salty, a sweet, and something to wash it all down goes a long way toward making life a little more pleasant.


Lela is the award-winning author of Blacklisted from the PTA and Who Peed on My Yoga Mat? and Faking Balance: Adventures in Work and Life. She has been a freelance journalist and commentator for NBC News/TODAY Moms, iVillage and The Huffington Post.

Editors note: Thank you Lela for allowing us to share your work with our audience.

Thursday, September 17, 2015

A Brief History of Midland

“Midland is the kind of place where you can show up with nothing, work hard, have a dream, and end up making something of yourself.”  George W. Bush

Under the bright West Texas stars and blazing orange sunsets, Midland is home to more than 120,000 residents. Midland has seen its share of booms and busts, but what makes Midland so unique aside from its whirlwind history in the oil and gas business is the generosity of its people and their support for the community. Local Midland author Jimmy Patterson said it best in his new book, A History of Character: The Story of Midland Texas, “Midland is not perfect; no city could claim to be. We have had our struggles and triumphs, our booms and our busts. Often our generous nature has shone clear and inspiring; other times we have regretted our actions and tried to make good on mistakes. But on the whole, Midland is a city of Character.”

How Midland Got its Name
Midland was first home to the Commanche Indians who roamed the great plains of West Texas until it was officially recognized in 1881 by the Texas and Pacific Railroad. Known as being the halfway mark between Fort Worth and El Paso, Midland was originally named “Midway”. This name quickly changed to Midland in 1884 after eight other Texas communities claimed Midway as their name. It is hard to believe that in 1884 Midland was home to only two residents until the appearance of oil and gas in the region drew in residents by the thousands from all over the country.

Discovery of Oil in the Permian Basin
In the early 1900’s ranching and agriculture dominated the Midland economy with both sheep and cattle far outnumbering its people. This changed almost overnight in 1923 when oil was discovered by the acclaimed Santa Rita well. “No other event has had [such a] lasting effect on the economy of Midland as the discovery of the rich oil and gas deposits throughout the Permian Basin.” said Judge Hyde. “When the Santa Rita well blew in… the economy of the Permian Basin changed forever.”

Wildcatters from across the country came to Midland in large numbers in search of oil. In 1945 Humble Oil and Refining Co. discovered the Sprayberry Trend in Midland County, which changed life for many Midlanders. “Standing alone, the Sprayberry in and of itself, is a singularly significant event in the history of West Texas, particularly Midland,” states Author Jimmy Patterson. After the discovery of the Sprayberry over 215 oil companies established offices in Midland, and the town's population was estimated at 21,700 people. By 1960 the population nearly tripled to 62,625 people.This extreme growth led to the construction twelve elementary schools, three junior highs, a new high school and fourteen other school buildings to accommodate the growing population. What was once a quiet, one-horse ranching town had transformed into a bustling city full of economic prosperity and a bright future.

Midland: Home to the Fanciest Hotel in Texas
An integral part of Midland’s history is due in large part to the Scharbauer Hotel. As Judge Hyde described in Jimmy Patterson’s A History of Character: The Story of Midland Texas, “it would be impossible to discuss Midland’s history without including the role of the Scharbauer Hotel and the family responsible for it.” The Scharbauer family was one of the most successful cattle-ranching families in West Texas, and in 1927 Clarence Scharbauer built the Scharbauer Hotel from his ranching proceeds.

The Scharbauer Hotel was once one of the finest hotels in Texas. It was a community landmark that hosted oil-industry professionals and businessmen across the world. It featured 150 rooms at its opening to accommodate the increasing oil activity in the Permian Basin and was known by visitors as the busiest hotel lobby in the country with decorations rivaling those of other big city hotels. “Every major deal that was ever made in Midland was probably made in the Scharbauer Hotel. It was the place to make deals,” stated Clarence Scharbauer, Jr. Sadly, the 350-room hotel became economically unfeasible with wavering oil and gas prices, and in October of 1973, the legendary hotel was torn down.Today the Double Tree Hotel operates in the same location where the Scharbauer Hotel once stood.

Additional Historical Events that Put Midland on the Map
Although oil and gas is what originally gave Midland its fame, other events in this small West Texas town have given Midland National attention.

1987: Alysheba, a race horse owned by the Scharbauer family wins the 1987 Kentucky Derby. Alysheba’s prestigious win in 1987 made Midland  the only town to host to two Kentucky Horse Derby winners. Clarence Scharbauer, Jr. and family owned 1959 Kentucky Derby winner, Tommy Lee, and 1987 winner, Alysheba.

1987: Baby Jessica is rescued! On October 14, 1987 eighteen-month Jessica McClure fell into an abandoned well and became “America’s Sweetheart” as Americans watched the 24-hour news coverage of her rescue. Oprah Winfrey came to town weeks after her rescue to tape a show featuring the family, rescuers and America’s sweet “Baby Jessica”.

1989: Former Midland resident, George Herbert Walker Bush, becomes the 41st President of the United States of America and served in the White House from 1989 to 1993.

2001: George Walker Bush, son of former President George Bush, Sr., is elected President and makes a stop in Midland to deliver a speech before heading to Washington. The President states in his speech that he and his wife Laura, another local Midlander, still consider Midland home.

2014:  The FAA approves the Midland International Airport to become the first certified commercial spaceport. It is now known as Midland International Air and Space Port.

Midland Today
Nearly 100 years since the first discovery of oil in West Texas in 1923, Midland is still a town heavily influenced by the oil and gas industry. Mimicking the great oil discoveries in 1923 and 1945, the introduction of hydraulic fracturing in West Texas in the last decade has brought unforeseen levels of economic prosperity to Midland residents. From 2011 to 2014 the Midland population increased more than 25% in just three years, and in June 2012 Forbes magazine listed Midland as one of the best cities in which to find work.

As Midlanders know well, these countless up cycles are always followed by down cycles. However, Midlands continued effort to fight on and return to a prosperous and thriving community is what sets it apart from other communities in the state of Texas.The oil and gas industry has helped Midland to become the town it is today, but as most Midlanders agree, it really is the character of the people that makes Midland so special.

- Claire Statton, Tumbleweed Reporter

Editor’s Note:
The information included in this article is due in large part to Jimmy Patterson’s book, A History of Character: The Story of Midland, Texas. His book includes countless never before heard stories about Midland and the people who made it such a wonderful place to live. I would like to extend a big thank you to Mr. Patterson for his research on Midland’s history and for his contribution to this article. When asked about his opinion on the future of Midland and the effects of the oil and gas industry on its residents, Mr. Patterson replied that “Midland’s future will be determined by the quality of its people. If we continue to have high quality people move to town and join the high quality people already here, I think we will be able to thrive and survive just as we have in the past. The people of Midland have always had the vision and creativity to keep Midland’s legacy alive, and we must remember that moving forward.”


This article first appeared in The Junior League of Midland, Inc.'s monthly publication, "Tumbleweed." Read the entireissue here->

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Beyond the League: Alice Freidline

Welcome to “Beyond the League.” In this series, we will visit Active and Sustaining members of The Junior League of Midland, Inc. We will learn how they are making contributions to the community, their workplace, and beyond, celebrating how the skills they gained in the League helped to make an impact beyond the League.

Today, we visit Alice Freidline, Sustaining Member of The Junior League of Midland, Inc. and Director of Community Impact at the United Way of Midland.


Tell us about the organization where you lead or serve.

At the United Way of Midland (www.uwmidland.org), our mission is to improve the quality of life in Midland by uniting community resources with identified needs.

What's your role?

I serve as Director of Community Impact. Through Community Impact, we strive to determine unmet or "under-met" needs in our community, identify programs or collaborative initiatives to meet those needs, and then help to provide funding.

How has your JLM experience helped you lead and serve this organization?

I credit the The Junior League of Midland, Inc. with helping me learn a number of skills that I use all of the time in my work and in my volunteer roles.  Some of these are: guiding a team of diverse volunteers and appreciating all of their contributions; facilitating meetings and planning sessions; creating an organized notebook (or computer file) that another person can follow; and, last but not least, having a working knowledge of Parliamentary Procedure. I also learned the importance of giving back to my community and how to encourage others to do the same.

How can others get involved? 

There are hundreds of ways to be involved in our community.  It's just important to find the opportunity to use your specific gifts and talents.  One way to learn about some of those opportunities is to serve on a United Way allocation panel.  This provides a way to get "up close" knowledge of 10 - 12 local nonprofits and then help determine funding for as many as 20 different programs that are being offered.  Often, our volunteers learn of new and different ways to be involved that they would not have known about otherwise.

What else would you like to share? 

Through the work of the The Junior League of Midland, Inc., lives are being changed in many ways - some that you will never know.  But when you become a Sustainer, I think it's even more important that you intentionally look for ways to give back to our community.  Experience in the League provides each member with transferable skills that you can use throughout your lifetime to make a difference for others.


Thursday, September 3, 2015

The “KEYS” to Journey Summer Camp

Partnering with Rays of Hope, our Journey Summer Camp Committee planned and implemented a one-week summer camp for children who have experienced death, divorce, separation or other painful transitions.

From the “Ocean of Emotion” to “Challenge Mountain”, it was an incredible time – for participating kids and for our volunteers. In keeping with this year’s Junior League of Midland theme, “Education is the Key to the Future,” we asked our Journey Summer Camp volunteers to tell us about the “KEYS” to this placement.

K - What KIND of placement was this?

The purpose of this partnership with Rays of Hope is to facilitate a weeklong camp for kids that are dealing with death, divorce, and loss. Many of these kids have no one to talk to so this is the biggest thing in life for many of them. More than 43 amazing kids registered! - Natalie Cargile, Committee Chair

E - What was the most EXCITING part of this placement, for you?

The most exciting part of this placement for me was getting to work with such amazing kids. Each child was unique and had their own personal story. It was neat to see them share their journey in different ways everyday through the activities we planned.
-  Brittany Usrey, Committee Member

The most exciting part about this placement for me was art class! Hilary Granaghan and I created exciting projects for the week and got to work closely with every kid in the camp. - Natalie Cargile, Committee Chair

The most exciting part was the precious kids! They were so sweet and full of energy. I loved to see their faces light up and I loved when an activity really hit home for them.
- Breanne Reeves, Committee Member

Y - How did YOU grow through this placement?

Watching these kids move through the week and open up to us about their grief journey was extremely powerful, and made us all feel that we were achieving something extremely worthwhile.  It also helped me grow, thinking what some of these young children have encountered in their life and how they still choose to have a positive outlook, no matter what. -  Mollye Hillman, Committee Member

This camp served as a reminder that I must continue to always be a woman of service. The Lord has greatly blessed me and to whom much is given, much is required. - Natalie Cargile, Committee Chair

Journey Summer Camp was a way for me to be directly involved with the community, I loved seeing the kids every day. I was marveled at their strength and wisdom. Such a rewarding placement for all involved! – Elizabeth Hartman, President Elect

S - How did this SERVICE impact the community?

It is very evident that this service has a HUGE impact on these kids and their families. Some of these children don't have someone to talk to about their grief and the week showed me how valuable this placement is on the community, and on the lives and well being of the children and their families. -  Mollye Hillman, Committee Member

This camp impacted the community greatly. Kids from every background and every struggle were able to come to a safe place together. Not to mention, Journey Camp is free and lasts one week! The kids were encouraged, they were able to release their pain and sadness or anger and go home with ways to combat these feelings in the future.
- Natalie Cargile, Committee Chair